For many guys, the fact that they are shy is just another reason why they find it hard to attract women and they think that dating in general is more difficult than it should be. While I can sympathize with that way of thinking, I do think that you are really just looking for a cop out if you are complaining about the fact that you are shy being the reason why you are having a hard time with women. And I say this because I know what it is like to be shy, but I also know what it takes to get past that shyness so you can end up with a much better chance at attracting women. And it does not have to take forever to get to the point where you are able to block out your shyness and do well in any situation where you happen to be in the company of a woman.
What is the first thing that you need to do?
Try and determine the main reason why you are shy with women. Is it because you just lack the experience of doing well with women and that causes you to feel self conscious or like you don’t know what to do when you are around a woman you like? Or, is it because you have had bad experiences in the past and that has caused you to retreat into your shell rather than risk the possibility of getting rejected or hurt again by a woman you like? Being able to identify why it is you are shy around women is the first step to figuring out what you need to do to get over your shyness.
For most guys, it usually does come down to the lack of experience with women and that is one of the things that you can work on rectifying almost immediately. You can gain the experience that you feel that you lack just by engaging with women more often socially and taking as many opportunities as you can in order to get more and more experience so that eventually you feel like it is easy to be around women. It’s a simple truth that the more experience that you have in social interactions with women – the more likely it is that you are going to feel comfortable and not feel as shy as you normally do.
Another thing that you need to do is to accept the fact that if you do nothing, you will get nothing.
This is one of the main things that can really drive you forward even when you kind of feel like you don’t want to approach a woman or to put yourself out there and risk getting rejected by a woman. Accept the fact that if you do nothing to get better at attracting women, then you are going to get nothing and you will just be right where you are right now. If that is not where you want to be and you want things to change – then you are going to have to take risks and eventually that can help you to gain the confidence you currently lack and help you to get over your shyness with women.